if you want to change your life forgive yourself
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If You Want To Change Your Life, Forgive Yourself First

To change your life, the first thing you need to do is forgive yourself.


You need to forgive yourself for ANYTHING you’ve done. Because if you don’t, you might eventually start hating yourself, possibly for the rest of your life. 
If you’re feeling guilt or remorse, the first step towards becoming the person you want to be is accepting what you have or haven’t done in the past. Once you have forgiven yourself, you’re on the path to changing your life’s course.

7 Ways To Forgive Yourself


1. Admit And Accept That You’ve Messed Up

Start by admitting to yourself that you’ve made a mistake. Take responsibility for what you’ve done and accept where you’ve done wrong. Don’t try to justify your actions or make excuses. However it may hurt to admit these things to yourself, they’re crucial for self-forgiveness.


2. If You’ve Hurt Someone, Ask For Their Forgiveness

If you’ve hurt someone else, you should start by apologizing to them. A simple and honest apology is often enough to bring closure and set you both free. The most effective apologies are made in person, but if this isn’t possible for one reason or another, sending a letter or apologizing over the phone will do too. 


3. Write A Letter To Yourself

Don’t just write an apology letter to someone you’ve hurt; send one to yourself as well. Include what you’ve learned during the process and what steps you will take to make things right. Remember to be kind. There’s no need to lash yourself with guilt. 


4. Remind Yourself That Nobody Is Perfect

Everyone makes mistakes. You are no different. Learn to accept that you don’t have to be perfect, that it’s ok to f*ck up every now and then. 


5. Practice Metta Bhavana (Loving-Kindness Meditation)

Metta Bhavana, Loving-Kindness, is a meditation practice where kindness is actively directed towards yourself and others. It increases feelings of empathy and helps you to be kinder and more forgiving.

By practicing Metta and cultivating loving-kindness to yourself, you will experience less internal conflict and learn to appreciate yourself more. 


6. Learn From Your Mistakes

“The only real mistake is the one from which we learn nothing.” -Henry Ford

Mistakes are made so we can learn from them and grow as human beings. If you repeatedly make the same mistakes, you need to take a step back and re-assess your behavioral patterns. Why is it that you find yourself in similar situations over and over again? What can you learn from this to move on with your life? What type of action must you take?


7. Seek Help If Needed

Experiencing guilt is natural, but you may wish to seek professional help if it’s causing symptoms of anxiety or depression, impacting your relationships, or causing problems at school or work. 


Practicing self-forgiveness is crucial if you wish to move forward in life. Accepting your mistakes and making peace with the past releases negative energy and creates space for new and positive life experiences. 


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